Cancer can feel isolating, even when you're surrounded by people who care deeply. It’s not just about being alone; loneliness can stem from feeling like no one truly understands what you’re going through. While it’s a common experience, there are ways to reconnect and find the support you need.

Cancer often disrupts routines and relationships. Treatments may keep you stuck at home, physical changes might make socializing harder, and well-meaning loved ones might struggle to find the right words. You may not feel connected to anyone who has been through a similar health experience as you. This combination can leave you feeling cut off from the world.

1. Share Your Feelings: Open up to someone you trust about how you’re feeling. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or therapist, expressing yourself can lighten the emotional load. Loved ones often want to be supportive, but do not always know what someone needs during cancer treatment. Letting your family and friends know how you are feeling can help them understand how to better support you.  

2. Join a Support Group: Talking with others who’ve experienced cancer can be deeply validating. Look for in-person or virtual groups tailored to your needs—whether based on your diagnosis, age, or interests. 

3. Revisit Hobbies or Try New Ones: While cancer may change how you engage in certain activities, keep in mind that those values that are core to who you are will remain. Engaging in activities you enjoy and provide meaning, or exploring new ones can provide a sense of purpose and introduce you to others with shared interests.  

4. Lean on Your Care Team: Your Iris Care Team, including oncology-specialized therapists, is here to connect you with resources designed for emotional support. 

5. Focus on Small Connections: Sometimes, meaningful connections come in small doses: a smile from a neighbor, a chat with a barista, or a text exchange with a friend. Keep an eye out for those small connections. 

It’s important to recognize that loneliness is not a sign of weakness or failure. It’s a normal reaction that cancer can bring. Be kind to yourself and remember—seeking connection is a strength, not a burden.

You don’t have to face this alone. Reach out to your Iris Care Team for personalized support and strategies to help you feel more connected every day.